Personal Growth

Dear Jew in the City,

I am a somewhat observant Jew in a big city with a decent Jewish population, but I am having trouble finding my bashert. I am not Orthodox and while many of my friends and family members are, and I understand and respect living an Orthodox life, I know certain aspects like being shomer negiah and dressing tznius (modestly) are not who I am.

I keep a kosher home, and observe Shabbos in my own way (I dont drive, but watch tv). My problem is that to the majority of the Jewish guys I am considered too religous as they like to go out Friday nights to get cheesburgers and go to the movies, which I won't do. The other guys are all Modern Orthodox and want a wife who will wear a sheital and what not. I am 26 and ready to find my husband, but I am starting to think I might have to become less religious or more religious than I am comfortable with in order to do so. I don't want to change who I am for someone, but I'm out of ideas. What should I do? Should I move somewhere with a bigger and more middle of the road community instead of here where it is all or nothing?

Thanks,

Jessica

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